We’re going on holiday, spending time in the forest, we pray, meditate, think, relax, recharge… all to… yea, what?
It’s a sort-of common fact that people are trying to get a so-called peace of mind.
When everything around us seems to drive us up to the wall, we want to find that inner peace that should create the same state externally.
But things are different. Much different.
A while ago I stumbled upon a quote from Naval Ravikant who said:
You don’t want a peace of mind but a peace from mind.
And it stuck with me.
That couldn’t be more true and better said.
The problem is that our mind often turns into always-talking money that just won’t shut up.
This monkey doesn’t care that you don’t want to recall that thing… you don’t care what he or she said.
This monkey will take you back to an old situation and make you think about what you should have said at that moment.
This monkey will make you think about “potential” situations and train you so you know how to respond (just in case).
This monkey is the most annoying thing and the real problem is that this monkey is us.
And when you think about all these activities - traveling, time in the forest, praying, meditating, thinking, relaxing, even sleeping - you’re getting away from your mind.
You’re not letting this monkey actively participate in what you’re doing.
That’s how you win over it.
If you give the monkey too much attention, it will take your finger, your hand, and the whole body.
As scary as it sounds, getting away from our mind is the skill to learn. Hard one but incremental adjustments is the way to go.
The first step is to be aware of the monkey. Learn to notice its noise. Only then you can act upon it.
Then train yourself to actively analyze that noise.
Why am I having this thought?
Do I want to spend my brainpower thinking about it?
Does it make sense to ponder the issue?
Lastly, kill the monkey by not giving it any space or attention.
The monkey is like a 5-year-old.
If you make them realize that you don’t give a damn about what they’re doing, they’ll stop immediately.
Monkey feeds off of your attention.
Brake the chain. Starve it to death.
After everything is done, fill up the zoo with something valuable.
Thinking itself can be very productive.
Reading is a superpower.
Exploring interesting topics and diving deep into a subject that you care about can be enlightening.
Choose one and double-down on it.
You’ll never regret this decision.